Sometimes we forget that our children do grow up….
These thoughts have been conveyed to me by someone very near and dear to me.
She calls me up crying, asking me to do something to get her Father to stop what he is doing
So here are some of this little 13 yr old’s thoughts.
This is for my Dad who is unwilling to listen to anything that I have to say,
and when I do, you don’t believe that it is coming from me!
These are my thought’s no one else’s, no one is telling me what to say,
I am 13 yrs old and have a mind of my own, this is what I see you doing to me and my Mom.
What you do care about is trying to hurt the people in my life that care
about me and I care about them! They are MY FAMILY, they are the ones that
have raised me from an infant to the teenage girl you see today..NOT YOU
Do you NOT realize that everything you are doing is only driving me farther away from you?
Did you forget all the times when I was little, waiting with my bags packed,
only to have you NOT show up when you were supposed to?
I got to the point that when my Mom said to get ready to go with your Dad for
the weekend, I said “if he shows up, then I will pack my bags”
Did you forget not that long ago, we were supposed to carve pumpkins for
halloween, only to have you NOT show up once again?
Then you come 2 days later and want to do it, but wait I had friends over that day,
you wanted them to leave so we could do the pumpkins.
I yelled at you… where were you 2 days ago when we were supposed to do this?
you never bothered to even call and say you weren’t coming….so
NO I don’t want to do pumpkins now just because you want to.
Did you forget when we were supposed to decorate a Christmas tree at
your house… only to once again NOT show up to pick me up?
No phone call, NOTHING!
How hard would it be to make a 1 minute phone call to tell me you couldn’t come get me?
Then a week after Christmas you wanted to do the tree? What’s the point?
Christmas was LAST week.
I do have a life and it does not revolve around you, we did have a lot of stuff to do
before that Christmas, and can’t just drop everything because you want me too.
If you had got me when you were supposed to have,
then none of this would have happened.
Do you remember the letter I gave you about ditching me? Why do you still do it?
did you even read it? did you believe it? Think hard Dad, it’s all TRUE!
You think that it is so great that you get to see me 2 extra days a week now,
all you had to do was ask!!
Not go to court and say you wanted to spend time with your daughter, then when you got this
extra time, we really have nothing to do.
My Mom made a promise to Grandpa that she would NOT take you back to court,
but you took her to court instead. You started all this, NOT my Mom.
What about my feelings?? do they even matter to you?
Do you have any idea how much I dread Mon and Wed afternoon’s now?
Even the day I was sick, I texted you and said I didn’t want to go, you said I
don’t care, I’m picking you up at 3:30
Stop being such a jerk and ask me what I want to do,
and ask me how I feel about all this, ask ME!
This is NOT just about YOU Dad, it is about ME too!
Gone are the days that I enjoy going to the park to play on the swings and slide down the slides,
sure it’s still fun once in a while, but gets old rather quickly if done too often.
The cute names you called me when I was younger, say 5,6,7 yrs old
are not so cute anymore now that I am a teenager.
If you missed that part when I was growing up, I certainly do not want to relive
it now, because it makes you feel better. I may not show it,
but you should be able to see the signs that it annoys me, so please stop.
I will always be your little girl but please don’t treat me
like a baby.
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Do always love me
Do treat me with respect
Do treat my Family with respect
Do you really want me to hate you?
If so, then just keep right on doing what you are doing.
If NOT then LISTEN to what your little girl
is saying, and know those words are mine and no one else’s
Do NOT talk bad about my Mom right to my face
Do NOT tell me that I am stupid, because you think my Mom is
Do NOT talk bad about the people that I love, these are the people
that I LOVE and that LOVE me as well.
These are the people that have raised me my whole life and they mean
the world to me.
Do NOT tell me that my only good Grandpa died and my Papa that I
live with is DUMB. Do you have any idea how mad that makes me?
When you have me for the weekend, I do NOT enjoy watching you sleep, while I have NOTHING to do.
If you really have nothing to do when you are supposed to pick me
up, I really would rather stay home…. walking around Wal-Mart or HomeDepot
for 2 hours is NOT my idea of a good time.
Sitting in the car at Wal-Mart while you go in to make phone calls from a pay phone, is
NOT a good time.
Going to a tire store and sitting there for an hour is NOT fun!
You could have done that anytime, why now? why with me?
When you drop me off after a visit, how about waiting to make sure that the car you THINK is
my Nana’s, really is her, before you drive off and leave me standing in an empty parking lot
to find out on my own that it was NOT Nana’s car!
They were not even there yet, because you were early!
Do you know how scared I was?? NO you have NO idea!
You never told your sister about that did you?
From her Uncle Bill,
For you to say something so stupid in court, that if you wouldn’t get
custody, then she would be better off in foster care, are you for REAL??
And do you really believe that she would be better off with you?? REALLY??
Take a good long look in the mirror and try and convince yourself of that…. what do YOU
have to offer that, her, Mom and family can’t give her or that she doesn’t already have??
Just because you have screwed up your own life, don’t try and screw up
your daughter’s anymore than you already have.
Stay on the course you are on and I will guarantee that whenever the court
decides that she can speak for herself, even if she has to wait till she is 18, MARK MY WORDS
She will NEVER want to see you again!
Is that what you REALLY want?? I don’t think so
You are doing NOTHING other than driving a huge wedge between you and the little girl
you want everyone to believe that you care so much about.
Want to make your daughter HAPPY again? Then STOP what you are doing!
Go back to your original every other weekend… she liked that…. don’t believe me?
Then ask your daughter!!
On Mon and Wed, how about asking her if she want’s to go do something, if she says
no, then by god BELIEVE her!! I know that would be a relief for you at times, trying to
find something to do for those 2 hours, think about it… does she seem HAPPY, or is
she just counting the minutes till she gets dropped of and can go home??
Now for those that have had a hand in all this (behind the scene), all I can say is
Shame on you!
Are you that blind that you do NOT see all
the damage you have caused to this little girl? your neice, your goddaughter.
You are doing way more harm than any good you thought you were helping him
to achieve, I speak from experience, none of you have ANY idea what you are doing!
All you hear is poor me, poor me, those people are out to get me,
those people won’t let me see my daughter, poor me poor me!
Ask him sometime, what did you do to screw up the relationship
you had with “those people”. What about all the dinners, holidays, all the time you
spent there swimming, going over there almost everyday?
What happened to that?
They did that because you are her Father! They did it for HER!
Did you get your shorts in a knot when you were told, to NOT just walk in and make
yourself at home, when there was NO ONE HOME is that what pissed
you off?
What kind of father gives the child a list of all the stuff they have given them over
the years and says “I want this stuff back”
There is a boatload of stuff that was your doing, way too
much to list here, but you know what you did and it’s long past time to
man up to your mistakes!
If you don’t believe me… then call her, or better yet, call and pick her
up after school, take her for a walk on the canal or go sit somewhere and
talk!! You will be in for an eye opener!!